Is a 'normal' unavoidable, though every normal is also detested?

While we want to be as free as possible and exercise our will without any bounds, a sense of common rules based in a common notion of a normal is essential to live together, if at all. Without these rules, any sort of coordination and cooperation is not possible. For ex: Riding on one side of the road as a rule.

While we can aspire to change the normal, queer thinking promotes detesting the normal as such. Does such a position make sense?